You have to pay attention to your own behavior anytime, anywhere (瓜田李下)
During the Han Dynasty in China, many folk
poems have been passed down to this day.
There is a poem which mainly instructs us
how to become a qualified gentleman.
In the first paragraph of this poem, the
author first reminds us.
A gentleman should pay attention to his
behavior at all times, he should avoid others from misunderstanding himself.
E.g. If you are in a watermelon field, do
not bend over and wear shoes, so as not to be misunderstood by others that you
are stealing watermelons.
If you are under the plum tree, do not
touch your hat, so as not to be misunderstood by others that you are stealing
plums.
If you get along with people of the
opposite sex or who are very different from your own age, pay attention to
maintaining proper social distance.
In the second paragraph of this poem, the
author reminds us.
After we have done this at all times to pay
attention to our own behavior. More importantly, we must remain diligent and
humble in our attitude.
Even if there is no other person's
supervision around, I have to demand my own behavior.
In the third paragraph of this poem, the
author shares the story of a famous gentleman in ancient China.
This person's name is (Ji Dan)
He is the king's uncle, but he is not
proud, he often visits some talented ordinary people.
He often asks these knowledgeable people
questions.
He would not look down on others just
because of his noble status.
Sometimes when he is at home, the servant informs
him that someone is coming to visit him.
He will immediately greet these guests,
even if he is eating or taking a bath, he will immediately stop working at hand
and receive these guests as soon as possible.
This idiom is used to remind us to pay attention
to our actions and avoid misunderstandings.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
Will you pay attention to your own behavior
to avoid misunderstandings caused by your own behavior? What kind of behavior
should a gentleman in your mind have?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
瓜田李下(You have to pay attention to your own
behavior anytime, anywhere)
中國的漢朝時代，民間有許多的詩歌流傳至今。
其中有一首詩，主要在指導我們如何成為一個合格的紳士。
在這首詩的第一段，作者先提醒我們。
一位紳士應該隨時注意自己的行為，他應該避免別人對自已產生誤會。
例如。若你在西瓜田中、不要彎腰穿鞋，以免被別人誤會你在偷摘西瓜。
若你在李子樹下、不要摸帽子，以免被別人誤會你在偷摘李子。
若你與異性或是與自己年紀相差甚多的人相處時，要注意保持適當的社交距離。
在這首詩的第二段中，作者提醒我們。
我們做到隨時注意自已的行為這一點之後。更要在心態上保持勤奮，謙虛。
就算周圍沒有別人監督，自己也要要求自已的行為。
在這首詩的第三段中，作者分享了一位中國古代著名的紳士的故事。
這個人的名字叫做(姬旦)
他是國王的叔叔，但他不驕傲，他常常去拜訪有一些有才能的尋常百姓。
他常常向這些有知識的人請教問題。
他也不會因為自己的地位高貴，就瞧不起別人。
有時候他在家裡，僕役通知他有人來拜訪他的時候。
他會立刻去迎接這些客人，就算他正在吃飯或者洗澡，他都會立刻停止手邊的工作、第一時間去接待這些客人們。
這句成語被用來提醒我們要留意自己的行為，避免引起別人的誤會。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你是否會留意自已的行為，避免自己的行為造成他人的誤會呢?你心目中的紳士應該有怎樣的行為表現呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。