I chose him as my son-in-law(東床快婿)
(Wang Xi zhi) is recognized as the best
calligrapher in Chinese history.
About him. There is a story about him in
history books.
He lived in the Eastern Jin Dynasty in
China. At that time, there were four important families in China.
Each of these four families has
considerable political influence.
Wang Xizhi's family is the most important
of the four important families.
One day, another family leader (Xi Jian)
told the Wang family leader (Wang Dao).
My daughter is an adult. If you want, our
two families can get married.
(Wang Dao) said. This is great.
Director Wang continued. In my family,
there are many boys of marriageable age.
You can pick it yourself. Whoever you pick,
I will let him marry your daughter.
The next day, (Wang Dao) held a grand
banquet, in which he called all the unmarried boys from the family to attend.
(Xi Jian) ordered his students to attend
this banquet instead of him.
He told his student to observe the behavior
of every boy in secret.
After the banquet, the student immediately
reported his observation to (Xi Jian).
He said. All young people in the Wang
family are excellent. But only one is bad.
(Xi Jian) asked curiously, what is wrong
with that person.
The student answered.
All the young people attending the banquet,
everyone dressed very well and had a polite attitude.
But there is a young man, he wears home
clothes, his attitude is very relaxed to do his work.
(Xi Jian) Hearing this, he said loudly,
how could this person be bad.
This man is so good, I will choose him as
my son-in-law.
This person is (Wang Xi zhi).
This idiom is used to describe a person as
a good son-in-law.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
Do you think why (Xi Jian) chose (Wang Xi
zhi) as his son-in-law? If you were (Wang Xi zhi), in this situation, would you
deliberately show your politeness?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
東床快婿(我就選擇他作為我的女婿I chose
him as my son-in-law)
(王羲之)是中國歷史上公認最優秀的書法家。
關於他。歷史書上記載過一個關於他的故事。
他生活在中國的東晉時代。當時中國有四個重要的家族。
這四個家族在政治上各自有相當大的影響力。
王羲之的家族，就是四個重要的家族中，最重要的一個。
有一天，另一個家族領導(郗鑒)，對王家的家族領導(王導)說。
我的女兒已經成年，如果你也願意，我們兩個家庭可以聯姻。
(王導)說。這太好了。
王導繼續說。在我的家族中，適婚年齡的男孩子有很多。
你可以自己去挑。你挑中了誰，我就讓他跟你的女兒結婚。
隔天，(王導)舉辦了一個盛大的宴會，在宴會中他召集了所有的家族中未婚的男孩子出席。
(郗鑒)就吩咐自已的學生代替他去參加這場宴會。
他吩咐自己的這個學生，要暗自觀察每個男孩子的行為舉止。
這個學生在宴會結束後，立刻去跟(郗鑒)回報他的觀察。
他說。王氏家族的所有年輕人都很優秀。但只有一個不好。
(郗鑒)很好奇地問，那個人怎樣不好。
這個學生回答。
參加宴會的所有年輕人，每個人穿著都很得體，態度都很有禮貌。
但卻有一個年輕人，他就穿著家居服，他的態度很輕鬆的做自已的工作。
(郗鑒)聽到這邊，大聲說，這個人怎麼會不好。
這個人太好了，我就要選他做我的女婿。
這個人就是王羲之。
這句成語被用來形容一個人是很好的女婿。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你認為(郗鑒)為何會選王羲之做他的女婿嗎?若你是(王羲之)，你在這種情形之下，你會刻意表現出自己的禮貌嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。