I don’t think your approach can really solve this problem. (澆瓜之惠)
During the Spring and Autumn Period of
China, the Liang Kingdom was adjacent to the Chu Kingdom.
The border administrator of the Liang
Kingdom is (Song Jiu).
This land is very suitable for growing
melons, so the people of the two kingdoms have grown melons for a living.
Farmers in the Liang Kingdom are more
industrious and water three times a day, so the melons grow big and beautiful.
Farmers in the Chu Kingdom are relatively
lazy, watering once a day, so the melon grows small and ugly.
The melons grown by the farmers in the
Liang Kingdom are selling well, but the melons grown by the farmers in the Chu
Kingdom are not selling well.
So the farmers in the Chu Kingdom were
jealous of them.
The farmers of the Chu Kingdom secretly
crossed the border at night to destroy the melon fields of the Liang Kingdom.
The farmers of the Liang Kingdom were angry
when they discovered that their melon fields were destroyed, and they planned
to take revenge.
Everyone agreed to find one night to
secretly cross the border to destroy the melon fields of the Chu Kingdom.
(Song) heard this.
He called all the farmers.
He said to these farmers,
You will not solve the problem by doing this,
you will only make the problem bigger and bigger.
If it were me, I would take another
approach.
I will also sneak across the border at
night, but I will not destroy the melon fields of the Chu Kingdom.
I will water the melon fields of Chu
Kingdom.
You can try my approach.
The farmers could not understand, but they
still respected his advice.
These farmers sneak across the border every
night to help water the melon fields of the Chu Kingdom.
After a month, the farmers of the Chu
Kingdom found that the melons in their melon fields were getting better and
better.
Everyone finds it strange.
All the farmers of the Chu Kingdom later
discovered that the reason was because the farmers of the Liang Kingdom
secretly crossed the border at midnight to water their melon fields.
All the farmers are ashamed, and since this
day they will no longer destroy the melon fields of the Liang Kingdom.
A few years later, the farmers of the two
kingdoms have also become very good friends.
The border administrator of the Chu Kingdom
later reported the incident to the king of the Chu Kingdom.
The king of the Chu Kingdom said with
shame.
The farmers in our kingdom destroy their
melon fields, but they help the farmers in our kingdom water the melon fields.
We should express our gratitude,
The king of the Chu Kingdom later prepared
a large sum of money and asked the diplomat to give it to the king of the Liang
Kingdom.
The two kingdoms have since become very
good friends.
This idiom is used to remind us. When
others hate us, we can choose to respond to them with kindness. The real way to
solve problems is often not tough confrontation.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
If you were (Song Jiu), how would you deal
with this problem? Have you ever had this kind of experience, you want to solve
a problem, but make the problem worse?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
澆瓜之惠(I don’t think your approach can
really solve this problem.)
中國的春秋時代，梁王國與楚王國相鄰。
梁王國的邊界管理員是(宋就)。
這一塊地很適合種瓜，所以雙個王國的人民都已種瓜為生。
梁王國的農夫比較勤勞，每天澆水三次，所以瓜長得又大又美。
楚王國的農夫比較懶散，每天澆水一次，所以瓜長的又小又醜。
梁王國的農夫們種的瓜熱賣，楚國地的農夫們種的瓜滯銷。
所以楚王國的農夫們很忌妒他們。
楚王國的農夫們便在晚上，偷偷越過邊界跑去破壞梁王國的瓜田。
梁王國的農夫們發現自已的瓜田被破壞後很生氣，他們便計畫報仇。
大家便約定找一天晚上，要偷偷越過邊界一起去破壞楚王國的瓜田。
(宋就)聽到這個事情。
他便召集了所有的農夫。
他對這些農夫們說，
你們這樣做並無法解決問題，你們只會讓問題愈來愈大。
如果是我，我會採取另外一種途徑。
我一樣會在晚上偷偷越過邊界，但我不破壞楚王國的瓜田。
我會去幫楚王國的瓜田澆水。
你們可以試試看我的途徑。
農夫們無法理解，但還是尊重他的建議。
這些農夫們就每天半夜偷偷越過邊界，去幫楚王國的瓜田澆水。
過了一個月，楚王國的農夫們發現自已瓜田中的瓜長的愈來愈好。
大家都覺得很奇怪。
所有楚王國的農夫們，後來才發現原因是因為梁王國的農夫們每天半夜偷偷越過邊界為自己的瓜田澆水。
所有的農夫都很慚愧，從這一天之後他們就不再破壞梁王國的瓜田。
幾年之後，兩個王國的農民們也變成了很好的朋友。
楚王國的邊界管理員後來這件事情報告給楚王國的國王。
楚王國的國王很羞愧地說。
我們王國的農夫們破壞他們的瓜田，但他們卻幫我們王國的農夫們澆灌瓜田。
我們應該要表示我們的感謝，
楚王國的國王後來就準備了一大筆金錢，請外交官送給梁王國的國王。
這兩個王國從此變成很好的朋友。
這句成語被用來提醒我們。別人用仇恨對我們的時候，我們可以選擇用善良回應他們。真正解決問題的方式往往不是強硬的對抗。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你如果是(宋就)，你會怎樣處理這個問題呢?你是否有過這種經驗，你想要解決一個問題，但卻因此讓問題更加嚴重呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
典故出自漢朝-劉向編著-新序·雜事四