She walks slowly and observes quietly(煙視媚行)
During the Warring States Period in China,
the prime minister of the Qin Kingdom (Lu Buwei) edited a set of books.
There is a story in the book.
The king of the Wei Kingdom hired a famous
scholar to join the administrative team. The name of this scholar is (Hui Shi).
In the Wei Kingdom’s administrative team, there was a senior minister named (Bai Gui).
(Hui Shi) and (Bai Gui) met for the first
time, and they were talking.
(Hui Shi) has been expressing his opinions.
He feels that he is very smart. He even instructed (Bai Gui) on how to improve
work efficiency.
After this conversation is over. The king
asked (Bai Gui ).
How do you evaluate (Hui Shi).
(Bai Gui) said.
There is a newly-married couple, and the
bride formally lives in the groom's home after getting married.
On the first day the bride moved into the
man’s home, she started commenting on the man’s family and instructing the man’s family on
how to improve.
The bride’s opinion
may be right, but she did not express her opinion at the right time.
She should walk around slowly and observe
the situation of the whole family quietly.
A few days later, she waited until the
right time appeared before expressing her opinion.
The king nodded in agreement.
This idiom is used to describe a lady
walking slowly and keeping quiet.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
Do you agree with (Bai Gui 's) view? After
you join a new team, will you immediately put forward your own reform ideas?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
煙視媚行(She walks slowly and observes quietly)
中國的戰國時代，秦王國的宰相(呂不韋)主編了一套書。
書裡有一個故事。
魏王國的國王聘請一位著名的學者進入行政團隊。這個學者的名字叫做(惠施)。
魏王國的行政團隊中，有一個資深的大臣，他的名字叫做(白圭)。
(惠施)與(白圭)兩個人第一次見面，他們正在交談。
(惠施)一直發表他的見解，他覺得自已很聰明，他甚至指導(白圭)應該如何提高工作效率。
這場對談結束後。國王問(白圭)。
你如何評價(惠施)。
(白圭)說。
有一對新婚的夫婦，新娘在結婚後正式住進新郎的家中。
這位新娘住進男方的家中的第一天，她就開始評論男方的家人並指導男方的家人應該如何改進。
這個新娘子的意見可能是對的，但是她表達意見的時機不對。
她應該慢慢地走動然後靜靜地觀察整個家庭的情況。
幾天之後，她等到合適的時機出現時，才表達自已的意見。
國王點頭表示認同。
這句成語被用來形容一個女士慢慢走路、保持安靜。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你認同(白圭)的看法嗎?你加入一個新的團隊之後，你會立刻提出自已的改革的意見嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為吕氏春秋-審示覽-不屈
