You haven't grown.(不長進)
In the Eastern Jin Dynasty of China, there
was a famous minister named (Wang Tanzhi).
One of his stories is recorded in history
books.
He has an old friend whose name is (Zhi
Daolin), and he was a famous monk at that time.
The two of them haven't seen each other for
a long time.
Once, (Zhi Daolin) came to the capital. The name of the capital at that time was (Jiankang). After he heard the news, he went to visit him.
After the two of them met, they both were
very happy, and they began to talk.
(Zhi Daolin) asked.
My old friend, we have not seen each other
for a long time.
How are you doing. Do you have any insights
into life in the past few years?
He replied.
Thank you for your concern. I have had a
good time in recent years.
After saying this, he began to talk about
his experience in the past few years.
He used very gorgeous words to describe his
life, and he used many famous sayings to prove his excellence.
He talked endlessly and proudly. He did not
give (Zhi Daolin) a chance to speak at all.
After dozens of minutes, he finished his
remarks that he had prepared in advance and that he thought was very exciting.
He said to (Zhi Daolin).
Do you think I have grown significantly in
the past few years?
(Zhi Daolin) looked at him with a smile,
and then answered slowly.
We have been apart for so long, and you are
still as ostentatious as you were when you were young. I don't think you have
grown up.
He left in shame.
This is a few idioms with only three
characters. This idiom means that a person has not grown up at all.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
Does your wisdom increase every year with
your age? When you talk with others, do you want to communicate with each
other's ideas or just want to prove that you are better than others?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
不長進(You haven't grown.)
中國的東晉王朝，有一個著名的大臣，他的名字叫(王坦之)。
歷史書上記載了他的一個故事。
他有一個老朋友，這個老朋友的名字是(支道林)，他是當時一個著名的僧人。
他們兩個人已經很久沒見面了。
有一次，(支道林)來到首，當時首都的名字是(建康)。他聽到這個消息後就去探訪他。
他們兩個人見面後，他們兩個人都很開心，他們開始對談。
(支道林)問。
我的老朋友，我們已經好久不見。
你最近過得好嗎。你這幾年有甚麼人生感悟嗎。
他回答。
謝謝你的關心，我這幾年過得很好。
說完這句話後他就開始說自己這幾年的經歷。
他用很華麗的詞藻去形容他的生活，他用很多的名言去印證自已的優秀。
他滔滔不絕並且很得意地講。他完全沒有給(支道林)說話的機會。
好幾十分鐘後，他說完了自已這段事先準備好而且自已覺得很精彩的言論。
他對(支道林)說。
你覺得我這幾年是否有很明顯的成長呢。
(支道林)微笑的看著他，然後慢慢地回答。
我們分別了那麼久，你還是跟年輕時候一樣的浮誇，我覺得你並沒有成長啊。
他很羞愧地離開了。
這是一句少數只有三個字的成語。這句成語的意思是指一個人完全沒有成長。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你的智慧有隨著你的年齡一樣每年增長嗎?你與他人對談時，是希望可以溝通彼此的想法還是只想要證明自已比別人優秀的呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為世說新語-文學-42條
https://ctext.org/shi-shuo-xin-yu/wen-xue/zh
參考文獻支道林生平事蹟考
http://enlight.lib.ntu.edu.tw/FULLTEXT/JR-BJ001/08_08.htm