He focused on improving his self-cultivation(獨善其身)
There is an important scholar in Confucianism
whose name is (Meng Ke).
There is a story in his book.
He had a conversation with a good friend
whose name was (Song Goujian).
He says.
I find that you like to socialize with
others.
And I found that if others agree with you,
you are very happy. If others do not agree with you, you will be depressed.
I think no matter whether others agree with
you or not, you should maintain the same good mood.
His friend replied.
It's too difficult. How can I stay in a
good mood without being influenced by others?
He says.
Let me give an example.
Suppose there is a person who maintains
consistency no matter the lows or highs of life, he insists on integrity and
kindness.
When he maintains this persistence at the
low point in his life, he will respect himself.
When he maintains this persistence at the
height of his life, he will not lose the respect of others for him.
There are many such models in history
books.
When these people are at a low point in
their lives, they will focus on how to improve themselves and make themselves
better.
When these people are at a high point in
their lives, they will focus on how to help more people so that more people can
become better.
They don't particularly expect others to
identify with them, but in the end they get the approval of others.
Their hearts are in a state of
self-affirmation, so they can maintain a good mood under any circumstances.
"
This idiom means that a person concentrates
on improving one's self-cultivation, but it also has a more negative meaning,
which means that one only cares about one's own good and does not care about
others.
Dear friend, what inspiration or thoughts
did you have after hearing this story.
Do you feel frustrated because others
disagree with you? Are you a self-affirming person?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
獨善其身(He focused on improving his self-cultivation)
儒家有一個重要的學者，他的名字叫做（孟軻）。
他的書中有一個故事。
他與一個好朋友對話，這個好朋友的名字叫做(宋勾踐)。
他說。
我發現你很喜歡與他人交往。
而且我發現若他人認同你，你就很開心。若是別人不認同你，你就很沮喪。
我認為不管別人是否認同你，你都應該保持一樣的好心情。
他的朋友回答。
這太難了，我要怎樣才能不被他人影響，都一直保持好心情呢。
他說。
讓我舉一個例。
假如有一個人，他不論在人生的低點或高點都保持一致性，他都堅持正直與善良。
他在人生低點的時候保持這種堅持，他就會自己尊敬自已。
他在人生高點的時候保持這種堅持，他就不會失去別人對他的尊敬。
歷史書中就有記載很多這樣的典範。
這些人在人生低點的時候，他們會把心力放在如何提升自已讓自已變得更好。
這些人在人生高點的時候，他們會把心力放在如何幫助更多人讓更多人能夠變得更好。
他們不特別去期待別人認同他們，但結果他們反而得到別人的認同。
他們的內心處於一種自我肯定的狀態，所以他們可以在任何的情況下都保持好心情。
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這句成語的意思是一個人專注在提升自已的修養上，但也有比較負面的意思，就是指一個人只顧自已的好而不在乎別人。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你會因為別人不認同你而感到沮喪嗎?你是否是一個自我肯定的人呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為孟子-盡心上-9條
https://ctext.org/mengzi/jin-xin-i/zh
遊的意思有交往之意。
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得的意思有找到與得到之意。
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知的意思有明白了解之意。
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望的意思有仰望之意。
