He is sick but he refuses to seek medical
attention(諱疾忌醫)
There was a famous writer and philosopher
in the Northern Song Dynasty. His name is (Zhou Dunyi).
He combined the ideas of Taoism and
Confucianism to develop his own unique philosophy.
There is a paragraph in the book he wrote
as follows.
A friend asked.
If you see your friends behave well, what
will you do.
He replied.
I will learn from his good behavior.
The friend asked.
If you see your friend behaving badly, what
will you do?
He said.
I will advise him to change.
The friend asked.
Then if someone tells you, you have bad
behavior. How do you remind yourself that you should humbly accept other
people's advice?
He said.
I will use Confucius as a model to remind
myself.
Confucius, when he heard others point out
his mistakes, he would be very happy to say to this person, thank you for
reminding me, this gave me a chance to improve.
Because of his behavior, many people in
later generations respect him.
But now many people don't know this story,
and most people get angry when they hear others point out his mistakes. I think
this mentality is like a person who is already sick, but this person has been
evading reality and not going to the doctor.
Such people are unwilling to face their own
mistakes, so they never make progress.
The meaning of this idiom is to describe a
person's unwillingness to listen to other people's advice, unwilling to face
their own mistakes.
Dear friend, how do you feel or think after
hearing this story.
How would you react if you heard someone
point out your mistakes? How would you remind yourself to be humble?
I hope this story will give you some new
gains.
諱疾忌醫(He is sick but he refuses to seek
medical attention)
北宋王朝有一位著名的文學家與哲學家。他的名字叫做(周敦頤)。
他結合了道家與儒家的思想，發展出自已獨特的哲學觀。
他寫的書中有一段一段文字如下。
有一個朋友問。
如果你看見你的朋友有好的行為，你會做甚麼事呢。
他回答。
我會學習他的好行為啊。
這個朋友問。
如果你看見你的朋友有不好的行為，那你會做甚麼事呢。
他說。
我會勸告他改過。
這個朋友問。
那如果有人跟你說，你有不好的行為。你如何提醒自已應該虛心接受別人的規勸呢。
他說。
我會以孔子為楷模來提醒自已。
孔子當他聽到別人指出他的錯失時，他會很開心對這個人說，謝謝你提醒我，這讓我有改進的機會。
因為他的這種行為，所以後世很多人尊敬他。
但是現在有很多人不知道這故事，大多數人聽到別人指出他的錯失時會很生氣。我認為這種心態就如同一個人已經生病了，但這個人卻一直逃避現實不去就醫啊。
這種人不願意正視自己的錯誤，所以導致自已永遠不再進步。
這句成語的意思是形容一個人不願意聽從別人規勸，不願正視自已的錯誤。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的感受或有怎樣的想法呢。
你如果聽到別人指出你的錯誤你會有什麼反應呢?你如何提醒自己要保持謙虛呢?
我希望這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為宋-周敦頤-通書-陋-33-愛敬第15與過26
