The family economic and social status of both
parties in the marriage should match(門當戶對)
During the Three Kingdoms period in China,
the name of the founding king of the Kingdom of Cao Wei was (Cao Pi).
His queen's name is (Guo Nei Wang).
She is a very principled person.
One of her stories is recorded in the
history books.
After she became queen, some of her
relatives were also able to enter the central government for this reason.
One day she heard something that made her
very angry.
Her cousin likes a girl, but the girl
doesn't like her cousin.
Her cousin used his power, her cousin
forced the girl to marry him, and the girl insisted not to agree.
She quickly called a family meeting.
she told her family.
Because of my status, many of you are able
to hold important public positions in the central government.
But I warn you, you must pay attention to
your words and deeds.
Using your own power to force someone to
marry you is something you should never do.
You should search for suitable marriage
partners from families whose economic and social status matches yours.
A few months later, she had a nephew to
take a concubine.
She heard about it and called another
family meeting.
She told everyone.
We are a well-known family in the kingdom,
so we should consider the perception of all the people in everything we do.
In the past few decades, we have
experienced many wars, and the proportion of marriageable men and women in the
Kingdom of Cao Wei has been seriously imbalanced.
There are many men in the kingdom who are
currently unable to get wives.
And you already have a wife and you want to
take a concubine. This behavior of yours will cause disgust among the people.
So I add this order that no man in our
family is allowed to take concubines.
In case of violators, I will ask the king
to impose the severest punishment.
This idiom is used to describe the fact
that both men and women in a marriage are very well matched in terms of family
economic and social status.
Dear friends, what inspiration or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
Do you think that when two people get
married, economic and social status is the main consideration? When you do
things, do you consider other people's feelings?
I hope this story will give you something
new to gain.
門當戶對(The family economic and social status
of both parties in the marriage should match)
中國的三國時代，曹魏王國的開國國王名字叫做(曹丕)。
他的皇后名字叫做(郭女王)。
她是一個很有原則的人。
歷史書上記載了一個她的故事。
她成為皇后後，她的一些親戚也因為這個原因得以進入中央政府擔任公職。
有一天她聽到一件令她很氣憤的事。
她的堂兄喜歡一個女孩子，但是這個女孩子並不喜歡她的堂哥。
她的堂哥運用權勢，她的堂兄強迫這個女孩子嫁給他，而這個女孩子堅持不答應。
她迅速的召開了一場家族會議。
她對她的家人說。
因為我的身分、因此你們許多人才能擔任中央政府的重要公職。
但我要警告你們，你們必須注意自已的言語與行為。
運用自已的權勢強迫別人與你結婚這是絕對不應該做的事。
你們應該從那些家庭經濟與社會地位與你們相匹配的家庭中去尋找合適的結婚對象。
幾個月後，她有一個侄子要納妾。
她聽到這件事後再次召開了一次家族會議。
她對所有人說。
我們是王國內的知名家族，因此我們做任何事都應該考慮到所有百姓的觀感。
這幾十年來，我們經歷過很多場戰爭，曹魏王國內的適婚男女比例嚴重失衡。
目前王國內有很多男子都娶不到妻子。
而你已經有妻子又要納妾。你的這行為會造成老百姓的反感。
因此我加上這一條命令，我們家族中的男人都不准納妾。
如果違反者，我會請國王施以最嚴厲的懲罰。
這句成語被用來形容婚姻中的男女雙方家庭經濟和社會地位非常匹配。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你認為兩個人結婚時，經濟與社會地位是考量的重點嗎?你做事情的時候，會考慮到其他人的感受嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為三國志-卷五-魏書-后妃傳-文德郭皇后