He is like a mother who spoils her child without principle. (婦人之仁)
The name of the founding king of the Han
Dynasty in Chinese history was (Liu Bang). And the name of the most important
general who assisted him in founding the Han Dynasty was (Han Xin).
The story of (Han Xin)'s life is very
wonderful, and one of his stories is recorded in history.
In the last years of the Qin Dynasty, there
were many resistance forces in China. Among these resistance forces, the two
biggest forces are (Xiang Yu) and (Liu Bang).
(Han Xin) first joined (Xiang Yu)'s army.
He had put forward his suggestions many times, but (Xiang Yu) did not adopt his
opinions. So later he switched to the (Liu Bang) camp.
He was appointed by (Liu Bang) as the
commander-in-chief of the Han Kingdom's army.
One day, (Liu Bang) had a conversation with
him.
(Liu Bang) asked.
What is your opinion on the current
situation in China?
he answered.
Among the various forces in China at
present, our kingdom and the Chu Kingdom led by (Xiang Yu) are the most
powerful.
After he paused, he asked back (Liu Bang).
I would like to ask you a few questions.
Who do you think is braver between you and
Xiang Yu? Who is better in martial arts? Who is more merciful?
Compared with the Kingdom of Chu, which
kingdom do you think has a stronger army?
(Liu Bang) answered after a few minutes of
silence.
In all these points, I can't compare to
him.
He said with a smile.
I agree with your answer.
Xiang Yu is indeed better than you.
But I think he has two fatal flaws.
These two shortcomings are our chances to
defeat him.
(Liu Bang) Attracted by his words, Liu Bang
listened to him very attentively.
He said.
(Xiang Yu) is a very dignified and capable
person, and no one dares to defy his opinion.
Because of this, he was unable to fully
delegate power to his subordinates, because he did not trust his subordinates.
He was brave, but he didn't build a strong
team.
(Xiang Yu) is a very kind and friendly
person, he takes care of his soldiers, so all the soldiers like him very much.
It is also because of this that he manages
his army with personal feelings. He has not established a fair system so that
his soldiers can be promoted and rewarded for their own military exploits.
Although he is kind, he has no fairness and
justice. He is like a mother who spoils her children without principle.
This idiom is used to describe a person who
is kind but lacks fairness and justice. This person is like a mother who spoils
her child without principle.
Dear friend, what are your feelings or
thoughts after hearing this story?
Do you spoil your children? Do you think
justice or kindness is more important?
I hope this story can give you some new
harvest.
婦人之仁(He is like a mother who spoils her
child without principle.)
中國歷史上的漢王朝開國國王的名字叫做(劉邦)。而協助他創建漢王朝的最重要的將軍的名字是(韓信)。
(韓信)一生的故事非常的精采，歷史上記載了一個他的故事。
秦王朝的末年，中國境內有很多反抗勢力。這些反抗勢力中，最大的兩股力量是(項羽)與(劉邦)。
(韓信)先投身(項羽)的軍隊，他曾經多次提出他的建議，但是(項羽)沒有採納他的意見。所以後來他改投入(劉邦)的陣營。
他被(劉邦)聘任為漢王國的軍隊的總指揮官。
有一天，(劉邦)與他對話。
(劉邦)問。
針對目前中國的情勢，你有何看法。
他回答。
目前中國境內的各股勢力中，就以我們王國與(項羽)所領導的楚王國的勢力最大。
他停頓了一下後、他反問(劉邦)。
我請問你幾個問題。
你認為你與項羽兩個人相比，誰比較勇敢?誰的武功比較好?誰比較仁慈?
你認為漢王國與楚王國相比，哪個王國的兵力比較強大?
(劉邦)沉默了幾分鐘後回答。
這幾點，我全部都比不過他。
他笑著說。
我認同你的回答。
項羽的確比你更加優秀。
但我認為他有兩個致命的缺點。
這兩個缺點，就是我們可以戰勝他的機會。
(劉邦)被他的這幾句話吸引，劉邦很專注地聽他說話。
他說。
(項羽)是一個很有威嚴而且能力很強的人，所有的人都不敢違抗他的意見。
也因為如此所以他無法充分下放權力給他的部屬，因為他不信任他的部屬。
他雖然勇敢，但是他沒有建立一個強大的團隊。
(項羽)是一個很仁慈而且對待他人很友善的人，他照顧他的士兵們，所以所有的士兵都很喜歡他。
也因為如此所以他用個人的感覺去管理他的軍隊，他沒有建立一套公平的制度讓他的士兵們可以因為自已的戰功獲得晉陞與獎勵。
他雖然仁慈，但是他沒有公平與正義，他就如同一個沒有原則地溺愛自已的孩子的母親。
這一句成語的被用來形容一個人雖然仁慈，但是這個人沒有公平與正義，這個人如同一個沒有原則地溺愛自已的孩子的母親。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的感受或有怎樣的想法呢。
你會溺愛你的小孩嗎?你認為正義與仁慈那個比較重要呢?
我希望這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
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