He seems to be unable to hear other
people's unreasonable insults to him, he is very calm.(詬如不聞)
In the Song Dynasty of China, there was a
famous official named (Fu Bi).
There is a story about him in the history
books.
He liked learning since he was a child and
was a very persistent person.
He has a big heart and he never gets angry
when people criticize and insult him.
A man once said to him
Some people have been criticizing your
behavior lately.
He answered.
are you sure? Are you sure someone has
criticized my behavior recently?
I think these people must not be
criticizing me.
The man said to him.
The one these people are criticizing is
you.
They say your name first and then criticize
your behavior.
He answered with a smile.
I think these people must not be
criticizing me.
There are so many people in China, there
must be many people with the same name and surname as me.
So I think they are criticizing someone
else, not me.
For those criticisms and insults that have
no factual basis, he will not be angry or respond, and always maintain a calm
heart.
This sentence is used to describe a person
who is unaffected and calm in the face of unreasonable insults from others.
Dear friends, after hearing this story,
what kind of inspiration or thought do you have?
How would you react if someone insulted you
unreasonably? When you hear criticism from others, do you look at yourself
first or do you blame others?
Hope this story can give you new harvest.
詬如不聞(He seems to be unable to hear other
people's unreasonable insults to him, he is very calm.)
中國宋朝有一位著名的大臣，他的名字叫（富弼）。
歷史書上有一段關於他的故事。
他從小就喜歡學習，是一個非常執著的人。
他有一顆寬廣的心，當人們批評和侮辱他時，他從不生氣。
曾經一個男人對他說
最近有些人一直在批評你的行為。
他回答。
你確定嗎？ 你確定最近有人批評我的行為嗎？
我想這些人批評的一定不是我。
這個男人對他說。
這些人批評的人是你。
他們先說出你的名字，然後批評你的行為。
他笑著回答。
我想這些人批評的一定不是我。
中國這麼多人，肯定有很多人跟我同名同姓。
所以我覺得他們批評的是別人，不是我。
對於那些沒有事實依據的批評和侮辱，他不會生氣，也不會回應，始終保持一顆平靜的心。
這句話用來形容一個人在面對別人的無理侮辱時，情緒不受影響，心情平靜。
親愛的朋友，聽了這個故事，你有什麼樣的啟發或想法呢？
如果有人無理侮辱你，你會有什麼反應？ 當你聽到別人的批評時，你會先審視自己還是責怪別人？
希望這個故事能給你新的收穫。
出處為步里客談-卷上
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出處為宋書-列傳72
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