If you want to avoid being slandered, the
best way is to improve your own character.(止謗莫如自修)
During the Three Kingdoms period in China,
there was a famous minister in the Kingdom of Cao Wei, and his name was (Wang
Chang).
History books tell a story about him.
He attached great importance to the
education of children, and wrote an article for his two sons.
There is a paragraph in the article that
reads as follows
If you hear bad rumours about other people,
don't spread them.
If a person denigrates or criticises you,
you should first do some self-reflection.
If they are telling the truth, they are not
disparaging or criticising you.
Since what he said is true, then you should
correct the mistake.
If what he says is not true, you don't need
to fight back.
Because you didn't do those things, there's
no need to be angry about what you didn't do.
If what he says is not true and you get
angry and slander and criticise him back, he will slander and criticise you
even more.
When someone slanders and criticises you,
the first thing to do is to stay calm. You can choose not to defend yourself.
You can use this opportunity to improve your self-cultivation.
There are two proverbs you should keep in
mind.
If you want to protect yourself from the
cold, it is best to wear a fur coat.
If you want to avoid being slandered, the
best way is to improve your character.
Some are gossipy and vicious. Don't get too
close to these people, stay away from them, if these people insult you, don't
argue with them.
Because these people lack the proper sense
of right and wrong, if you argue with them, you will put yourself in danger.
Many people are very hypocritical and like
to lie; these people are easy to spot.
As long as you observe whether their
behaviour and language are consistent, you can see that what they say is often
the opposite of what they do
This idiom means that if you want to avoid
being slandered, the best way is to improve your own character.
Dear friend, what kind of inspiration or
thought do you have after hearing this story?
Have you ever been slandered? Do your words
match your actions?
I hope this story can give you a new
harvest.
止謗莫如自修(If you want to avoid being
slandered, the best way is to improve your own character)
中國的三國時代，曹魏王國有一個著名的大臣，他的名字叫做(王昶)。
歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
他很重視孩子的教育，他寫過一篇文章給他的兩個兒子。
這篇文章中有一段的大意如下。
你如果聽見了一些關於別人的不好的傳聞，，你不要去到處傳講這些傳聞。
如果有一個人詆毀或批評你，你應該先自我反省。
如果他說的是事實，那麼他就不是詆毀與批評你。
他說的話既然是事實，那麼你就應該改正錯誤。
如果他說的不是事實，你不用去反擊他。
因為你根本沒有做這些事情，所以你沒有必要為了自己沒做的事情而生氣。
如果他說的不是事實，但你因此發怒並且反過來詆毀與批評他，那麼他接著會加倍的詆毀與批評你。
如果一個人詆毀與批評你，你應該先保持冷靜，你可以選擇不為自已辯解，你可以藉著這個機會提高自已的修養。
有兩句俗諺，這兩句俗諺你必須謹記在心。
如果你要免於寒冷，最好的方式就是穿上一件毛皮做的衣服。
如果你要免於被毀謗，最好的方式就是提升自已的品德。
有些人喜歡搬弄是非而且兇險惡毒。你不要與這些人太過親近，你最好離他們遠一點，當這些人冒犯你的時候，你不要與這些人爭辯。
因為這些人缺少正確的是非觀念，所以如果你與他們爭辯，你反而會讓自己陷入危險。
很多人非常的虛偽而且喜歡說謊，這些人很容易識別。
你只要觀察這些人的行為語言與是否一致就可以看的出來，這些人說的話與他們做的事情往往是相反的。
這句成語的意思是如果你要免於被毀謗，最好的方式就是提升自已的品德。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你是否有被毀謗過呢?你的言語與行為是否一致呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為三國志-卷27魏書-徐胡二王傳-王昶
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