Did not meet your expectations(不如人意)
During the Three Kingdoms period in China,
the founding king of the Soochow Kingdom was named Sun Quan.
History books tell a story about him.
He is worried about one thing.
His cousin was an important military
general in the Soochow Kingdom.
A few days ago, his cousin drank with a
general from the Eastern Wu Kingdom.
His cousin got into a serious argument with
the general when he got drunk.
His cousin insulted the general with words
that made the general very angry.
He wanted to settle the matter and went to
see the general first.
Said the general.
He's a member of the royal family, so he
can insult me?
Like your cousin, I am a general of the
Soochow Kingdom, we are all loyal to you, and we all try our best to defend the
Soochow Kingdom.
From that point of view, I am the same as
him.
I was very angry, he had to take the
initiative to apologise to me, and then I would reconcile with him.
When he knew the whole story, he wrote a
letter to his cousin.
You are almost 30 years old, and I have
entrusted you with an important military post in the kingdom.
You should lead your army with prudence and
clear rules.
If you can maintain kindness and tolerance,
you will gain the respect and trust of all the soldiers.
Treat your soldiers well and they will do
their best to defend the Soochow Kingdom.
The general you argued with has a violent
personality and vulgar behaviour and language. He has many shortcomings, and
his behaviour may not meet your expectations in many ways.
But you should not only see his faults, but
also his advantages.
He is a very ambitious and idealistic man.
So I like him and appreciate him very much.
After you got drunk, you couldn't control
your emotions, so you got angry and insulted the general.
I think you made a mistake.
We all make mistakes, but some people will
correct their mistakes and some people will not. What kind of person do you
want to be?
I sincerely advise you because you are my
dear cousin, so I hope you will reflect on yourself and I hope you will not
make similar mistakes in the future.
His cousin apologised to the General a few
days after receiving the letter.
This idiom means that a person or thing
does not live up to your expectations.
Dear friend, what kind of inspiration or
thought do you have after hearing this story?
If you were in his place, how would you
resolve the dispute between these two people? Would you ignore a person's
strengths because of their weaknesses?
I hope this story can give you a new
harvest.
不如人意(Did not meet your expectations)
中國的三國時代，東吳王國的開國國王的名字叫做孫權。
歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
他為了一件事情苦惱。
他的表弟是東吳王國的一個重要的軍事將領。
他的表弟在幾天前與一個東吳王國的將軍一起喝酒。
他的表弟喝醉後與這個將軍發生了嚴重的爭吵。
他的表弟用言語侮辱了這個將軍因此導致這個將軍非常的生氣。
他想要調解這件事情，他先見了這個將軍。
這個將軍說。
他是皇室成員，所以他就可以在言語上侮辱我嗎?
我跟你的表弟一樣都是東吳王國的將軍，我們都效忠於你，我們都盡全力保衛東吳王國。
從這個角度來看，我於他的身分是平等的。
我非常的生氣，他要主動跟我道歉，我才會跟他和好。
他了解這件事情的始末後，他寫了一封信給他的表弟。
你已經快30歲了，我讓你承接了王國內的重要的軍職。
你應該用謹慎的態度與明確的規定去管理你的軍隊。
你如果可以保持仁慈與寬容，你才會得到所有士兵們的尊敬與信任。
你必須善待你的士兵們，你的士兵們才會盡力保衛東吳王國。
與你發生爭吵的這位將軍，他的個性凶暴而且行為與語言都很粗俗，他有很多的缺點，他的行為可能很多地方不符合你的期待。
但是你不應該只看到他的這些缺點，你應該也要看到他的優點。
他是一個很有志氣而且很有理想的男人。所以我很重視他也很欣賞他。
你在喝醉之後，你沒有辦法控制自已的情緒，所以你發怒了，你在言語上侮辱了這個將軍。
我認為這件事情是你犯了錯。
我們每個人都會犯錯，但是有些人會改正自已的錯誤，有些人不願意改正自已的錯誤，你要當哪一種人呢?
我懇切地勸告你，因為你是我親愛的表弟，所以我希望你自我反省，我希望你以後不要再犯類似的錯誤。
他的表弟在收到這封信的幾天後向那個將軍道歉。
這句成語的意思是指一個人或一件事情不符合你的期待。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你如果是他，你會怎樣調解這兩個人的爭吵呢?你會因為一個人的缺點而忽視這個人的優點嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為三國志卷51-吳書-宗室傳
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