This lady is very old but still very
attractive(徐娘半老)
During the Northern and Southern Dynasties
of China, there was a king named (Xiao Yi) in the Nanliang Kingdom, and his
wife's name was (Xu Zhaopei).
There is a story about them in the history
books.
Xu Zhaopei's father and grandfather were
both important officials in the Nanliang Kingdom, and her marriage to (Xiao Yi)
was a political marriage.
Xu Zhaopei looks very ordinary and is very
jealous. Xiao Yi doesn't like her.
Xiao Yi has neglected Xu Zhaopei for a long
time, and her heart is very unbalanced.
Her feelings for Xiao Yi have changed from
love to hate.
Several times, Xiao Yi was in a good mood
and went to Xu Zhaopei's house in the palace to find her.
Xu Zhaopei did not show any inner joy. On
the contrary, Xu Zhaopei did something deliberate.
She divided her face into two parts and
only wore make-up on one side.
She used this method to mock Xiao Yi for
having only one eye.
Her plan worked, and Xiao Yi left her house
in a huff.
But Xu Zhaopei didn't feel any happier
because Xiao Yi was angry.
She couldn't get love from the man she
loved, so she was in a bad mood, which led to her chronic drinking.
Several times she vomited on Xiao Yi's
clothes because she was drunk.
Her behaviour made Xiao Yi dislike her more
and more.
When she couldn't get Xiao Yi's attention,
she began to cheat.
She had an affair with a monk at a temple
in the capital, and she also had an affair with a handsome priest.
Many people at the time knew that although
she was a queen, she had a regular lover.
Many people in the capital would gossip
about her in private.
There was a saying in those days.
There is a member of the royal family whose
dog is very old and can also help with hunting.
There is a member of the royal family whose
horse is very old and can run very fast.
There is a female member of the royal
family who is very old but still very charming.
Because her cheating behaviour made Xiao Yi
lose face, Xiao Yi later forced her to commit suicide.
This idiom means that the lady is very old
but still very attractive.
This phrase cannot be used casually to
describe a lady. It is a very frivolous word, which means to tease and ridicule
an older woman.
Dear friend, what inspirations or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
If you were her and could choose to
divorce, would you divorce? What would you do if the person you loved didn't
love you back?
I hope this story has given you some new
insights.
徐娘半老(This lady is very old but still very
attractive)
中國的南北王朝時代，南梁王國有一個國王的名字叫做(蕭繹)，他的妻子的名字叫做(徐昭佩)。
歷史書上記載了一個他們兩個人的故事。
徐昭佩的父親與祖父都是是南梁王國的重要官員，她與(蕭繹)的婚姻是一場政治聯姻。
徐昭佩長相非常普通而且忌妒心很強，蕭繹不喜歡她。
蕭繹長期冷落徐昭佩，她的內心非常的不平衡。
她對蕭繹的情感由原本的喜歡變成恨意。
有幾次蕭繹的心情很好，他到了徐昭佩在皇宮中的房子去找她。
徐昭佩沒有表現出內心的喜悅，相反的，徐昭佩故意做了一件事情。
她把自己的臉從中間分成兩邊，而她只化妝其中一邊。
她用這個方式諷刺蕭繹只有一隻眼睛。
她的計謀成功了，蕭繹生氣地離開她的房子。
但是徐昭佩沒有因為蕭繹生氣而讓自已的心情變得更快樂。
她得不到她喜歡的男人的愛，所以她心情很不好，因此她長期酗酒。
有好幾次，她因為酒醉而嘔吐在蕭繹的衣服上。
她的這些行為讓蕭繹愈來愈不喜歡她。
她得不到蕭繹的關心之後，她開始出軌。
她與首都內的一座寺廟的一個和尚私通，她也與一個長得很帥的大臣私通。
當時的很多人都知道她雖然是皇后可以她有固定的情夫。
首都中的很多百姓都在私底下傳播著有關她的八卦。
當時就有一句俗話流傳。
有一個皇室成員的狗年紀很大的還可以協助打獵。
有一個皇室成員的馬年紀很大的還可以跑得很快。
有一個皇室的女性成員的年紀很大了但還是很有魅力。
因為她的出軌的行為讓蕭繹很沒有面子，所以後來蕭繹就逼迫她自殺。
這句成語的意思是這位女士年紀很大了但還是很有魅力。
這句成語不能隨便拿來形容一個女士，這句成語是一句很輕浮的話，有調戲與嘲笑一個年長的女性的意思。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你如果是她而且你可以選擇離婚的話，你會離婚嗎?你愛的人若不愛你，你會怎樣做呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
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