He is very careful about making friends.(門無雜賓)
In the Eastern Jin Dynasty of China, there
was a famous scholar named (Meng Jia).
There is a story about him in the history
books.
He is a very upright person who treats
others in a gentle way.
He was very cautious about making friends
and did not invite friends to his house lightly.
He sometimes feels lonely inside because he
always feels that no one can really understand how he feels.
When he feels sad or moved by something,
and if he feels that there is no one to share it with, he will take a carriage
to the mountains by himself, where he will drink and write poetry all day long.
In his later years, he met a good friend
named (Xu Xun).
Xu Xun was born into a noble family, and Xu
Xun was a very famous poet. The king at that time wanted to invite Xu Xun to
work in the central government, but Xu Xun refused the king's request.
To escape the king's repeated invitations,
Xu Xun donated all his family's money to the temple and lived alone in that
place in Xiaoshan District, now Hangzhou, China.
After (Meng Jia) met Xu Xun, they had a
very pleasant conversation because their personalities were very close and
their knowledge was rich. They talked for two days and two nights the first
time they met. From then on, they simply became very good friends.
The meaning of this idiom is used to
describe a person who is very cautious about making friends.
Dear friend, what inspirations or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
Have you ever felt that your feelings were
not really understood? What do you talk about most with your best friends?
I hope this story has given you some new
insights.
門無雜賓(He is very careful about making
friends.)
中國的東晉王朝，有一個著名的學者，他的名字叫做(孟嘉)。
歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
他是一個很正直的的人，他用和順的方式去與他人交往。
他交友非常的謹慎，他不輕意招待朋友來他的家中。
他的內心有時候會覺得孤單，因為他總是感覺沒有人真正可以理解他的感受。
當他因為一些事情所以內心感覺悲傷或是感動的時候，如果他覺得沒有人可以分享，他就會一個人駕著馬車到山上，他會在山上喝酒寫詩一整天。
他晚年認識了一個好朋友，這個好朋友的名字叫做(許詢)。
許詢出身於貴族世家，許詢是一個很著名的詩人。當時的國王希望邀請許詢到中央政府內工作，但是許詢堅持不肯答應國王的請求。
為了逃避國王的一再邀請，許詢把他家中所有的錢全部捐給寺廟，他一個人獨自居住在現在中國的杭州市的蕭山區的這個地方。
(孟嘉)與許詢認識之後，由於他們兩個人的性格很接近而且他們的學識都很豐富所以對談起來非常的愉快，他們兩個人第一次見面就聊了兩天兩夜，他們從此就成為很好的朋友。
這句成語的意思被用來形容一個人交友非常的謹慎
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你是否曾感到沒有真正理解你的感受呢?你與你最好的朋友最常聊那些話題呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為陶淵明-晉故征西大將軍長史孟府君傳
出處為建康實錄-卷8-許詢
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