He doesn't judge others.(臧否人物)
In the Chinese kingdom of Cao Wei, there
was a famous minister who was also a famous writer and poet. His name was Ruan
Ji, and a story about him is recorded in history books.
He was a person with a very free
personality. He did not follow the social etiquette of the time and did what he
thought was right.
He does not talk to people easily. When he
does talk to others, he usually discusses some topics such as philosophy and
metaphysics.
Another characteristic of him is that he
never comments on others.
After his mother died, according to the
social norms of the time, he should look very sad, abstain from drinking
Chinese rice wine and enjoy large meals.
But his behaviour was contrary to the
social norms of the time.
He attended the banquet as usual. He also
drank Chinese rice wine and enjoyed the delicious food at the banquet. Some
ministers who attended the same banquet were dissatisfied with his behaviour
and criticised him. He did not defend himself, nor did he respond to these
people with words.
Near his home there is a small Chinese rice
wine store run by a young couple.
The husband of this young couple is in
charge of managing contacts with suppliers and purchasing goods, so he is
usually not in this small shop. The wife of this young couple is responsible
for selling in the small shop, so the wife spends all day in this small shop.
He often goes to this small shop to buy
Chinese rice wine.
Several times he drank too much Chinese
rice wine in that small shop and got drunk and slept in that small shop.
His behaviour caused a lot of comments from
the neighbours, who said to the couple's husband
Ruan Ji always goes to your little shop to
drink Chinese rice wine. When he gets drunk, he sleeps in your small shop.
Your wife is young and pretty. We think
Ruan Ji has bad intentions towards your wife.
The husband of the couple said to these
neighbours with a smile.
Based on my understanding of Ruan Ji, I
think that although his behaviour does not conform to social etiquette, his
heart has high standards for his own moral level, so I am not worried about him
at all.
If you don't believe him, you are welcome
to secretly gather evidence that he has bad intentions towards my wife. I think
you will find that he is, as I said, a very upright man.
This idiom means that he does not comment
on the strengths and weaknesses of others.
Dear friend, what inspirations or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
Have you ever met someone who likes to
comment on others? Do you care more about other people's opinions or do you
prefer to follow your own heart?
I hope this story can give you some new
insights.
臧否人物(He doesn't judge others.)
中國的曹魏王國，有一個著名的大臣，他也是一個著名的文學家與詩人，他的名字叫做阮籍，歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
他是一個個性非常自由的人，他不遵守當時的社會禮儀，他做自己認為對的事。
他不輕易跟別人對談，如果他與別人對話，他通常會討論一些對關於哲學與玄學之類的話題。
他還有一個特點，他從來不評論別人。
他的母親過世之後，照當時的社會規範，他應該表現出很哀傷的樣子、他應該禁喝中國米酒也不能享用大餐。
但是他的表現與當時的社會規範相反。
他照常參加宴會，他還在宴會上喝中國米酒與享用美食，參加同一場宴會的一些大臣對他的行為感到不滿所以批評他，他沒有為自己辯護，他也沒有用言語回擊這些人。
他家附近有一間賣酒的小店舖，這間小店鋪是由一對年輕的夫妻共同經營。
這對年輕的夫妻的丈夫負責管理和供應商聯絡並且進貨，所以這個丈夫通常都不在這間小店鋪中，這對年輕的夫妻的妻子則是負責在小店鋪中販售，所以這個妻子整天都會待在這間小店鋪裡。
他常常去那間小店鋪買中國米酒。
有好幾次，他在這間小店鋪中喝太多中國米酒所以他喝醉了，他就會睡在那間小店鋪中。
他的這個行為引起了很多鄰居的議論，這些鄰居對這對夫妻中的丈夫說。
阮籍每次都到你開的小店鋪中喝中國米酒，喝醉了就睡在你開這間小店鋪中。
你的妻子又年輕又漂亮，我們認為阮籍對你的妻子有不好的企圖。
這對夫妻中的丈夫笑著對這些鄰居說。
根據我對阮籍的了解，我認為他的行為雖然不遵守社會禮儀，但是他的內心對自己的道德水平要求很高，他所以我完全不擔心。
如果你們不相信他，那麼歡迎你們去暗中蒐集他對我個妻子有不好的企圖的證據，我認為你們將會發現，他就如同我所說的一樣是一個很正直的人。
這句成語的意思是他不評論他人的優點與缺點。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你有遇過那種很喜歡評論他人的人嗎?你比較在乎別人的看法還是你比較喜歡順從自己的內心嗎?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
出處為晉書-列傳49-阮籍傳
https://zh.wikisource.org/zh-hant/%E6%99%89%E6%9B%B8/%E5%8D%B7049
出處為世說新語-任誕-2條
https://zh.wikisource.org/zh-hant/%E4%B8%96%E8%AA%AA%E6%96%B0%E8%AA%9E/%E4%BB%BB%E8%AA%95
