Ruan Ji(阮籍/嗣宗)

Ruan Ji(阮籍) (210 AD - 263 AD)

His surname is (Ruan), his parents gave him the name (Ji) and when he grew up his friends called him (Si Zong). He was born in Henan Province, China.

 

阮	The name of a kingdom in ancient China. The name of an ancient Chinese string instrument. It is also one of the Chinese surnames.
籍	It means books. It is also a Chinese surname.
嗣	It means successor. It is also a Chinese surname.
宗	It means ancestor. It is also one of the Chinese surnames.

 

He was a famous minister of the Cao Wei Kingdom in China. He was also a famous writer and poet.

There is a story about him in the history books.

 

The three kingdoms in China's Three Kingdoms period are the Kingdom of Cao Wei, the Kingdom of Soochow and the Kingdom of Shu Han.

In 263 AD, the army of the Kingdom of Cao Wei captured the capital of the Kingdom of Shuhan, and the Kingdom of Shuhan was destroyed.

In 266 AD, a minister from the Kingdom of Cao Wei seized power in the Kingdom of Cao Wei. This minister announced the establishment of the Kingdom of Jin in 266 AD. In that year, the Kingdom of Cao Wei fell.

In 280 AD, the Jin Kingdom defeated the Soochow Kingdom and China regained its unity.

Ruan Ji lived during this chaotic period.

 

At the time he lived, the man with the most power in the Kingdom of Cao Wei was called Sima Zhao.

He was only one year older than Sima Zhao, and he had been very close to Sima Zhao since childhood.

 

To consolidate his power, Sima Zhao killed many ministers who disobeyed his orders.

Many of the ministers who disobeyed Sima Zhao and were killed were his good friends.

 

Sima Zhao's actions of killing his good friends made him feel painful, but he had no way to stop or change Sima Zhao.

So he turned to alcohol to escape the reality that he didn't know how to change.

 

One day he was drinking and eating with Sima Zhao.

Sima Zhao suddenly said to him

I have an idea.

You and I have been very close since childhood. My son and your daughter are about the same age. Can we get them married? Our two families can become in-laws.

 

After hearing what Sima Zhao said, he said to Sima Zhao

I'm a little drunk. I can't answer you now. We'll talk about it tomorrow.

 

After that day, he drank every day for 59 consecutive days until he was dead drunk.

During those 59 days, Sima Zhao came to his house every day to look for him, but by the time Sima Zhao saw him, he was already drunk and asleep in bed.

Sixty-one days after Sima Zhao had proposed this idea, Sima Zhao came to his house again.

Sima Zhao saw him still drunk and sleeping on the bed.

Sima Zhao said to him, who was already drunk and sleeping on the bed.

I think you don't want my son to marry your daughter, but you are too embarrassed to refuse me outright.

You don't want to hurt our feelings, so you use this method to avoid my proposal.

I have decided to withdraw my proposal.

I won't force you to do anything you don't want to do.

 

On the 62nd day, when Sima Zhao came to his house to look for him again, he was not drunk that day. He received Sima Zhao soberly.

Neither of them ever spoke of it again, and neither of them discussed the proposal of the two families to become in-laws until their deaths.

 

Dear friend, what inspirations or thoughts do you have after listening to this story?

If you were Ruan Ji, how would you refuse Sima Zhao's proposal? If you were Ruan Ji, what method and mentality would you use to make friends with Sima Zhao?

I hope this story can give you some new insights.

 

                           圖片出處為維基百科

 

阮籍(Ruan Ji)(西元210年-西元263年)

他的姓是(阮)，他的父母給他取的名字是(籍)，長大後朋友稱呼他的名字是(嗣宗)，他出生地位於在中國的河南省。

 

阮	古代中國一個王國的名字。古代中國的一種弦樂器的名字。也是中國人的姓氏之一。
籍	意思是書籍的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。
嗣	意思是繼嗣的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之
宗	意思是祖宗的意思。也是中國人的姓氏之一。

 

 

他是中國的曹魏王國一個著名的大臣，他也是一個著名的文學家與詩人。

歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。

 

中國的三國時代的三個王國，分別是曹魏王國與東吳王國與蜀漢王國。

西元263年，曹魏王國的軍隊攻下蜀漢王國的首都，蜀漢王國滅亡。

西元266年，曹魏王國的一個大臣奪取了曹魏王國的政權，這個大臣在西元266年宣布建立晉王國，這一年曹魏王國滅亡。

西元280年，晉王國打敗東吳王國，中國恢復統一。

阮籍就活在這個混亂的年代。

 

他生活的時代，曹魏王國掌握最大權力的人叫做司馬昭。

他只比司馬昭大一歲，他從小就跟司馬昭非常親近。

 

司馬昭為了鞏固自己的權力所以殺害了很多不服從他的命令的大臣。

這些不服從司馬昭而被殺的大臣中很多位是他的好朋友。

 

司馬昭殺了他的好朋友的這些行為讓他覺得痛苦，但是他沒有能力去阻止與改變司馬昭。

因此他藉由酗酒這個方式來逃避這個令他覺得不知道該如何改變的現實。

 

有一天，他與司馬昭一起喝酒吃飯。

司馬昭突然對他說。

我有一個想法。

我們兩個人從小就非常的要好，我的兒子與你的女兒的年齡相近，我們讓這兩個年輕人結婚好嗎?我們兩個家庭可以成為姻親。

 

他聽到司馬昭說的這些話後，他對司馬昭說。

我已經有點喝醉了，我現在無法立刻回答你，我們明天再討論。

 

這天過後，連續59天，他每天都喝到爛醉。

這59天中，司馬昭每天都到他的家中找他，但是司馬昭見到他的時候，他都已經喝醉並且睡在床上。

司馬昭提出這個想法的第61天後司馬昭又來到他家。

司馬昭看到他依然喝醉並睡在床上。

司馬昭對著已經喝醉並睡在床上的他說。

我認為你並不想讓我的兒子與你的女兒結婚，但是你不好意思直接拒絕我。

你不想傷害我們之間的感情，所以你用這種方式逃避我的提議。

我決定了，我收回我的建議。

我不強迫你做出你不願意做的事情。

 

第62天，當司馬昭又來到他的家中找他時，他這天沒有喝醉，他清醒的接待司馬昭。

他們兩個人都不再提起這件事，他們兩個人到死都沒有再討論讓兩個家庭成為姻親的提議。

 

親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。

你如果是阮籍，你會用什麼方式拒絕司馬昭的提議嗎?如果你是阮籍，你會用怎樣的方式與心態與司馬昭當朋友呢?

我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。

 

出處為晉書-列傳49-阮籍傳

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