A person wants to take care of his parents and repay their love for him, but unfortunately his parents have passed away, so this person's wish cannot be realized. (子欲養而親不待)
A person wants to take care of his parents
and repay their love for him, but unfortunately his parents have passed away,
so this person's wish cannot be realized.
(子欲養而親不待)
Confucius' name is (Kong Qiu). Confucius is
the honourable name people give him.
He was an outstanding politician and
educator who had more than 3,000 disciples.
He is one of the most influential thinkers
in Chinese history.
There is a story about him recorded in
history books.
One day, Confucius and his disciples were
out running errands. Suddenly Confucius heard the sound of weeping in the
distance.
Confucius listened carefully and said to
his students.
This person's crying voice is very sad.
Let's find out what has happened to this person.
Confucius and his disciples followed the
sound of crying. A few minutes later they saw a middle-aged man in ordinary
clothes sitting by the roadside and crying.
Confucius asked the middle-aged man.
Who are you? Why are you crying?
Replied the middle-aged man.
My name is Gaoyu. I have made three big
mistakes in my life.
I feel so remorseful that I'm sitting here
crying.
Confucius asked the middle-aged man.
Can you tell us what mistakes you have
made? We want to understand why you are so sad.
The middle-aged man replied.
The first mistake I made was that I left
home to study when I was young. After I left home, I felt that living alone was
very free, so I didn't go home for decades.
I am older now. I want to take care of my
parents when I return to my hometown. I want to repay the love my parents have
for me. But I found out that both my parents are dead.
A tree wants to stop shaking, but the wind
keeps blowing, so the tree cannot stop.
A person wants to repay his parents' love
for him, but unfortunately his parents are dead, so his wish cannot be
fulfilled.
The second mistake I made was that after I
graduated, I thought I was excellent and every boss I met was a fool, so I
never did what I was supposed to do seriously.
I wasted decades of my most precious time
and now I have absolutely no achievements.
The third mistake I made was that when I
was young, I had a few friends with whom I had a good relationship. Later, we
had friction over some small things, so I was very angry and unwilling to
forgive my friends.
I have lost contact with these friends of
mine and I feel very alone now.
I am sad because of these three mistakes,
which I regret very much. I do not want to live in this world anymore. I think
death is my best choice now.
After hearing these words, Confucius took
his disciples away from the middle-aged man.
After leaving the middle-aged man,
Confucius said to the students who followed him.
We should all keep this middle-aged man's
words in mind and remind ourselves not to make the same mistakes as this
middle-aged man.
The literal translation of this saying is
that a person wants to take care of his parents and repay their love for him,
but unfortunately his parents have passed away and his wish cannot be
fulfilled.
Dear friend, what inspirations or thoughts
do you have after listening to this story?
What is the most regrettable thing in your
life? What do you think is the most important thing in your life?
I hope this story can bring you some new
wins.
子欲養而親不待(A person wants to take care of his
parents and repay their love for him, but unfortunately his parents have passed
away, so this person's wish cannot be realized.
孔子的名字是(孔丘)。孔夫子是人們對他的尊稱。
他是一位傑出的政治家與教育家，他有超過3000個學生。
他是中國歷史上最有影響力的思想家之一。
歷史書上記載了一個他的故事。
有一天，孔子與他的學生們一起出門辦事，突然間，孔子聽到遠處傳來哭泣的聲音。
孔子仔細聽了這哭泣的聲音後對他的學生們說。
這個人的哭泣的聲音非常的悲傷，我們去了解一下這個人發生了什麼事。
孔子與他的學生們就循著哭泣的聲音去尋找，幾分鐘後，他們看到有一個穿著很普通的中年男子坐在路邊哭泣。
孔子問這個中年男子。
你是誰?你為何坐在這裡哭泣呢?
這個中年男子回答。
我的名字叫做皋魚。我這一生中犯了三個嚴重的錯誤。
我覺得很悔恨，所以我才會坐在這裡哭泣。
孔子問這個中年男子。
你可以告訴我們你犯了什麼錯誤嗎?我們想要了解為何你如此悲傷。
這個中年男子回答。
我犯的第一個錯誤就是我在年輕的時候為了求學所以離開家裡，我離開家後覺得很一個人的生活非常自由，所以我好幾十年都沒有回家。
我現在年紀大了，我回到故鄉後想要照顧我的父母，我想要回報我的父母對我的愛。但我發現我的父母親都已經死了。
一棵樹想要停止搖動，但無奈風不停地吹所以這個樹沒有辦法停止。
一個人想要回報父母親對自已的愛，但無奈這個人的父母親已經離世所以這個人的願望無法實現。
我犯的第二個錯誤就是我在畢業之後，我認為我很優秀，我覺得我所遇到的每個老闆都是笨蛋，所以我一直沒有認真做好我該做的事。
我白白浪費了好幾十年最寶貴的時間，我現在完全沒有成就。
我犯的第三個錯誤是我年輕時有幾個跟我感情很好的朋友，後來我們之間因為一些小事發生摩擦，所以我很生氣而且不願意原諒我的朋友。
我與我的這些朋友已經失去聯絡，我現在感覺非常的孤單。
我因為這三件令我非常後悔的錯誤而悲傷，我已經不想在活在這個世界上了，我認為死亡才是我現在最好的選擇。
孔子聽完這些話後就帶著他的學生們離開這個中年男子。
在離開這個中年男子後，孔子對跟著他的學生們說。
我們都應該牢記這個中年男子的話，我們都應該隨時提醒自己不要犯了跟這個中年男子一樣的錯誤。
這句成語直接翻譯的意思是一個人想要照顧父母並回報父母親對自已的愛，但無奈這個人的父母親已經離世所以這個人的願望無法實現。
親愛的朋友，你聽完這個故事有怎樣的啟發或有怎樣的想法呢。
你的人生中最令你後悔的事情是那一件呢?你認為你的人生中最重要的事情是什麼呢?
我期待這故事能讓你產生一些新的收穫。
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